P\u0159\u00edtomnost psychologa na \u0161kol\u00e1ch m\u00e1 v\u017edy pozitivn\u00ed \u00fa\u010dinek pro chod cel\u00e9 \u0161koly. Poskytuje poradenstv\u00ed ohledn\u011b osobn\u00edch a soci\u00e1ln\u00edch probl\u00e9m\u016f, u\u010d\u00ed \u017e\u00e1ky l\u00e9pe se orientovat ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b a rozhodnut\u00edch, napom\u00e1h\u00e1 jim zvl\u00e1dat stres, \u00fazkost a deprese, pom\u00e1h\u00e1 rozv\u00edjet d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed dovednosti, jako je komunikace, empatie
a \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9m\u016f. D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je tak\u00e9 role v prevenci \u0161ikany a \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed konflikt\u016f mezi \u017e\u00e1ky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Z\u00edskat a udr\u017eet si \u0161koln\u00edho psychologa nen\u00ed ale pro st\u0159edn\u00ed \u0161kolu v\u016fbec jednoduch\u00e9. Na\u0161\u00ed \u0161kole se to v\u0161ak da\u0159\u00ed. Od \u00fanora 2023 zde p\u016fsob\u00ed Mgr. Petra Fettersov\u00e1, psycholo\u017eka s bohat\u00fdmi zku\u0161enostmi. Poj\u010fme si p\u0159edstavit jej\u00ed pr\u00e1ci, jej\u00ed post\u0159ehy
a trochu i jej\u00ed soukrom\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Petro, za\u010dn\u011bme od za\u010d\u00e1tku, Va\u0161\u00edm p\u0159edstaven\u00edm. Obor psychologie-pedagogika jste studovala na Pedagogick\u00e9 fakult\u011b Univerzity Karlovy v\u00a0Praze. Jak jste se dostala ke studiu psychologie?<\/strong> Bylo to jen chov\u00e1n\u00ed a probl\u00e9my d\u011bt\u00ed na z\u00e1kladn\u00ed \u0161kole, se kter\u00fdmi jste se setkala, nebo i n\u011bco jin\u00e9ho, co V\u00e1s motivovalo podat si p\u0159ihl\u00e1\u0161ku ke studiu psychologie?<\/strong> Kde za\u010dala Va\u0161e profesn\u00ed dr\u00e1ha psychologa, kde jste sb\u00edrala zku\u0161enosti a kde v\u0161ude dnes jako psycholog p\u016fsob\u00edte? S\u00a0\u010d\u00edm v\u0161\u00edm za V\u00e1mi jako d\u00edt\u011b mohu p\u0159ij\u00edt?<\/strong> V\u00a0m\u00e9di\u00edch \u010dasto sl\u00fdch\u00e1me, \u017ee dne\u0161n\u00ed d\u011bti a ml\u00e1de\u017e maj\u00ed probl\u00e9my zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b v\u00a0psychick\u00e9 oblasti. Souhlas\u00edte s\u00a0t\u00edm?<\/strong> Stejn\u011b jako jin\u00e9 doby, ani ta dne\u0161n\u00ed nen\u00ed jednoduch\u00e1, i kdy\u017e by se dalo \u0159\u00edct, \u017ee \u017eijeme v blahobytu. Mo\u017en\u00e1 ale a\u017e v p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 velk\u00e9m. Co je, podle V\u00e1s, nej\u010dast\u011bj\u0161\u00edm probl\u00e9mem dne\u0161n\u00edch st\u0159edo\u0161kol\u00e1k\u016f?<\/strong> Jak, jako \u017e\u00e1k pozn\u00e1m, kdy probl\u00e9m zvl\u00e1dnu s\u00e1m a kdy u\u017e je lep\u0161\u00ed j\u00edt za psychologem?\u00a0<\/strong> A to je ten \u010das, kdy maj\u00ed d\u011bti u tebe dve\u0159e otev\u0159eny. P\u0159esto, nestyd\u00ed se n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed zaklepat na dve\u0159e psychologa?<\/strong> Je jist\u00e9, \u017ee v\u00a0dne\u0161n\u00ed dob\u011b je p\u0159\u00edtomnost psychologick\u00e9 pomoci pro spole\u010dnost mnohem norm\u00e1ln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, ne\u017e to b\u00fdvalo. Mohou se na tebe obracet i rodi\u010de \u017e\u00e1k\u016f?<\/strong> Kdy a jak prob\u00edh\u00e1 takov\u00e1 konzultace?<\/strong> Pokud t\u011b oslov\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b do 18, mus\u00ed\u0161 to hl\u00e1sit rodi\u010d\u016fm, \u00fa\u0159ad\u016fm, nebo to z\u016fstane jen mezi tebou a \u017e\u00e1kem?<\/strong> Petro,<\/strong> co t\u011b v\u00a0dne\u0161n\u00ed dob\u011b, jako psychologa, dok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159ekvapit?<\/strong> P\u0159ekvapuje m\u011b<\/em>, jakou p\u016fsobivou, v tom dobr\u00e9m i zl\u00e9m, s\u00edlu maj\u00ed soci\u00e1ln\u00ed s\u00edt\u011b na druh\u00e9, jak se vytr\u00e1c\u00ed vlastn\u00ed \u00fasudek, kritick\u00e9 my\u0161len\u00ed, jakou rychlost\u00ed se slovn\u011b ubli\u017euje bez vc\u00edt\u011bn\u00ed se do pocit\u016f toho druh\u00e9ho. J\u00e1 se hlavn\u011b setk\u00e1v\u00e1m s t\u00edm negativn\u00edm, zl\u00fdm p\u016fsoben\u00edm soci\u00e1ln\u00edch s\u00edt\u00ed na d\u011bti a mladistv\u00e9. Jako kdy\u017e p\u0159ijde vlna tsunami \u2013 nikdy to u\u017e nebude stejn\u00e9. Pod vlivem informa\u010dn\u00edch technologi\u00ed (nejen pod jej\u00edm) se nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u011b prom\u011b\u0148uje psychick\u00fd stav t\u00e9to generace a ozna\u010den\u00ed \u201esn\u011bhov\u00e9 vlo\u010dky\u201c je dosti v\u00fdsti\u017en\u00e9. Mnohdy jsem si uv\u011bdomila, \u017ee od n\u00e1s dosp\u011bl\u00fdch, kte\u0159\u00ed je doprov\u00e1z\u00edme, je nutnost\u00ed d\u00edvat se na sv\u011bt, ve kter\u00e9m \u017eij\u00ed, jejich \u00fahlem pohledu, hledat vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 porozum\u011bn\u00ed prost\u0159ednictv\u00edm empatick\u00e9ho naslouch\u00e1n\u00ed, vc\u00edt\u011bn\u00edm se, akceptac\u00ed, nesrovn\u00e1vat a nehodnotit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159ekvapuje m\u011b<\/em>, \u017ee p\u0159ib\u00fdv\u00e1 mladistv\u00fdch, kte\u0159\u00ed p\u0159ich\u00e1zej\u00ed se ztr\u00e1tou smyslu \u017eivota. Mysl\u00ed si, \u017ee maj\u00ed v\u0161e za sebou, nud\u00ed se a nedok\u00e1\u017eou si u\u017e\u00edvat. Chyb\u00ed mi u nich zku\u0161enost s NE, s nedostatkem, s \u010dek\u00e1n\u00edm na n\u011bco, \u017ee to nedostanou hned a n\u011bkdy ani pozd\u011bji, zku\u0161enost s od\u0159\u00edk\u00e1n\u00edm. T\u00edmto se tr\u00e9nuje psychick\u00e1 odolnost v\u016f\u010di ur\u010dit\u00e9 z\u00e1t\u011b\u017ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tak\u00e9 p\u0159ib\u00fdv\u00e1 d\u011bt\u00ed, kter\u00fdm sch\u00e1z\u00ed psychick\u00e1 podpora, maj\u00ed toho ve sv\u00e9m v\u011bku v \u201ebatohu na z\u00e1dech\u201c moc a moc, nemaj\u00ed je\u0161t\u011b osvojen\u00e9 strategie, dovednosti k \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed r\u016fzn\u00fdch situac\u00ed, ve kter\u00fdch se ocitly i d\u00edky sv\u00e9mu okol\u00ed, maj\u00ed pocit, \u017ee kdy\u017e to nezvl\u00e1dnou, je konec.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159ekvapuje m\u011b<\/em>, \u017ee p\u0159ib\u00fdv\u00e1 rodi\u010d\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed velmi brzy \u201epou\u0161t\u00ed\u201c d\u011bti, dle m\u00e9ho n\u00e1zoru, ze sv\u00e9ho dohledu a vlivu. Rodi\u010dovsk\u00e1 zodpov\u011bdnost trv\u00e1 do 18 let v\u011bku ka\u017ed\u00e9ho d\u00edt\u011bte, av\u0161ak j\u00e1 pozoruji, \u017ee si to v\u00edc a v\u00edc rodi\u010d\u016f p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 uv\u011bdomovat. Rozum\u00edm tomu, \u017ee na S\u0160 pova\u017euj\u00ed sv\u00e9 d\u011bti za tak velk\u00e9, \u017ee o\u010dek\u00e1vaj\u00ed, \u017ee budou u\u017e samostatn\u00e9 a zodpov\u011bdn\u00e9. Ale kdy\u017e se to doposud nemohly nau\u010dit? D\u011bti v\u011bt\u0161inou nejsou v\u00fdchovn\u011b vedeny k p\u0159evzet\u00ed zodpov\u011bdnosti se v\u0161emi d\u016fsledky jak pozitivn\u00edmi, tak negativn\u00edmi. Nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 d\u016fsledky by mnohdy maj\u00ed n\u00e9st sp\u00ed\u0161e rodi\u010de ne\u017e jejich d\u011bti, p\u0159\u00ed\u010dina je \u010dasto v jejich v\u00fdchovn\u00fdch postupech.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159ekvapuje m\u011b <\/em>st\u00e1le, jak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem dne\u0161n\u00ed rodi\u010de \u0159e\u0161\u00ed nesoulad mezi jejich n\u00e1zorem \u010di postojem a n\u00e1zorem nebo postojem \u0161koly\/u\u010ditel\u016f \u2013 formou st\u00ed\u017enost\u00ed na vy\u0161\u0161\u00ed m\u00edsta. Problematick\u00e9 situace je ale nejlep\u0161\u00ed \u0159e\u0161it v m\u00edst\u011b, kde vznikly a se v\u0161emi z\u00fa\u010dastn\u011bn\u00fdmi, kter\u00fdch se to t\u00fdk\u00e1, hledat vz\u00e1jemn\u011b kompromis, tj. uspokojiv\u00e9 \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed pro co nejv\u00edc z\u00fa\u010dastn\u011bn\u00fdch. Nikdo nem\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt 100% spokojen\u00fd, takov\u00e9 \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed nejde za\u0159\u00eddit. N\u011bkdy je dobr\u00e9 tak\u00e9 p\u0159ipustit, \u017ee \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed nen\u00ed, \u017ee se z\u00fa\u010dastn\u011bn\u00ed nedohodnou, nedomluv\u00ed, ale mohou se domluvit na dal\u0161\u00edm postupu v hled\u00e1n\u00ed \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed A to nen\u00ed ur\u010dit\u011b v\u0161echno. Naopak jsou ale situace a v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 se staly b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 Nep\u0159ekvap\u00ed m\u011b<\/em>, \u017ee pracovat na \u0161kol\u00e1ch, kde nem\u00e1 psycholog podporu ze strany veden\u00ed \u0161koly, nejde. B\u00fdt \u0161koln\u00ed psycholo\u017ekou je velice specifick\u00e1 pr\u00e1ce. Mnohdy pracujete najednou se t\u0159emi r\u016fzn\u00fdmi klienty \u2013 rodi\u010d, d\u00edt\u011b a u\u010ditel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A nep\u0159ekvap\u00ed m\u011b<\/em>, \u017ee n\u011bkdo nechce vyu\u017e\u00edt slu\u017eeb \u0161koln\u00ed psycholo\u017eky p\u0159\u00edmo ve \u0161kole, i kdy\u017e to je po ruce. Za m\u011b to je zcela v po\u0159\u00e1dku, ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1 mo\u017enost volby, pln\u011b respektuji rozhodnut\u00ed v\u0161ech, kdy\u017e vyhledaj\u00ed odbornou pomoc jinde. Sama jim n\u011bkdy nab\u00eddnu konzultaci v prostoru mimo jejich domovskou \u0161kolu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vypad\u00e1 to, \u017ee p\u0159ekvapen\u00ed v tv\u00e9m profesn\u00edm \u017eivot\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d p\u0159eva\u017euj\u00ed. Ne jinak je tomu ale i v osobn\u00edm \u017eivot\u011b n\u00e1s v\u0161ech. Petro, d\u011bkuji za rozhovor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0160koln\u00ed psycholog je na SP\u0160OW p\u0159\u00edtomen pond\u011blky a st\u0159edy v budov\u011b ve Velk\u00e9m Po\u0159\u00ed\u010d\u00ed. Po p\u0159edchoz\u00ed domluv\u011b, jsou ale mo\u017en\u00e9 konzultace i na hronovsk\u00e9 \u0161kole. Pokud tedy pot\u0159ebujete probrat sv\u016fj probl\u00e9m nebojte se p\u0159ij\u00edt nebo zavolat. Pan\u00ed psycholo\u017eka v\u00e1m s nimi r\u00e1da porad\u00ed a vy v tom nebudete sami. Mark\u00e9ta Machov\u00e1<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kontakt:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mgr. Petra Fettersov\u00e1, tel.: 601 084 735, e-mail: psycholog@spsow.cz<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" P\u0159\u00edtomnost psychologa na \u0161kol\u00e1ch m\u00e1 v\u017edy pozitivn\u00ed \u00fa\u010dinek pro chod cel\u00e9 \u0161koly. Poskytuje poradenstv\u00ed ohledn\u011b osobn\u00edch a soci\u00e1ln\u00edch probl\u00e9m\u016f, u\u010d\u00ed \u017e\u00e1ky l\u00e9pe se orientovat ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b a rozhodnut\u00edch, napom\u00e1h\u00e1 jim zvl\u00e1dat stres, \u00fazkost a deprese, pom\u00e1h\u00e1 rozv\u00edjet d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed dovednosti, jako je komunikace, empatiea \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9m\u016f. D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je tak\u00e9 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":12254,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12250","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-4"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12250","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12250"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12250\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12256,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12250\/revisions\/12256"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12254"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12250"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12250"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spsow.cz\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12250"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Kdy\u017e jsem byla na gymn\u00e1ziu, m\u00fdm p\u0159\u00e1n\u00edm bylo st\u00e1t se porodn\u00ed asistentkou. Na toto t\u00e9ma jsem psala i semin\u00e1rn\u00ed pr\u00e1ci. Pak jsem ale vid\u011bla porod a omdlela. I p\u0159esto jsem byla st\u00e1le p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dena, \u017ee jin\u00e1 profese pro m\u011b neexistuje. P\u0159ij\u00edma\u010dky jsem d\u011blala na zdravotnickou \u0161kolu, bohu\u017eel ne\u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u011b. A tak jsem ve \u0161koln\u00edm roce 1992\/93 nastoupila na Z\u0160 Komensk\u00e9ho v\u00a0N\u00e1chod\u011b na pozici u\u010ditel-suplent. Tady jsem se za\u010dala v\u00edce zab\u00fdvat chov\u00e1n\u00edm d\u011bt\u00ed a \u010d\u00edst psychologickou a pedagogickou literaturu
a n\u00e1sledn\u011b si podala p\u0159ihl\u00e1\u0161ku ke studiu psychologie a pedagogiky. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zku\u0161enost ze z\u00e1kladn\u00ed \u0161koly m\u011b hodn\u011b ovlivnila, ale s\u00a0nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pravd\u011bpodobnost\u00ed bylo studium psychologie pro m\u011b ur\u010dit\u00fdm druhem terapie, nebo\u0165 moje d\u011btstv\u00ed nepat\u0159ilo mezi to \u00fapln\u011b \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 a jednoduch\u00e9. Studium se pro m\u011b stalo takov\u00fdm kl\u00ed\u010dem k\u00a0porozum\u011bn\u00ed tomu, pro\u010d se n\u011bkter\u00e9 situace v\u00a0rodin\u011b staly, pro\u010d se dosp\u011bl\u00ed tak chovali, pro\u010d j\u00e1 jsem se mnohdy tak tr\u00e1pila apod.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/strong>Po studiu jsem t\u0159i roky pracovala v Diagnostick\u00e9m \u00fastavu pro ml\u00e1de\u017e, osm let v Pedagogicko-psychologick\u00e9 poradn\u011b. Nyn\u00ed jsem pravideln\u011b na sedmi \u0161kol\u00e1ch \u2013 SP\u0160 Oty Wichterleho, Z\u0160 a M\u0160 Doln\u00ed Radechov\u00e1, Z\u0160 a M\u0160 Such\u00fd D\u016fl, Z\u0160 Montessori, Z\u0160 Mezim\u011bst\u00ed, Z\u0160 a M\u0160 Teplice nad Metuj\u00ed, Z\u0160 \u010cesk\u00e1 Skalice. Nepravideln\u011b p\u016fsob\u00edm i na Academii Mercurii, Z\u0160 Bab\u00ed, Z\u0160 Plhov, M\u0160 Hronov, Z\u0160
a M\u0160 St\u00e1rkov. A pak m\u00e1m je\u0161t\u011b soukrom\u00e9 poradenstv\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prakticky s\u00a0\u010d\u00edmkoliv, nem\u00e1m omezen\u00ed ohledn\u011b t\u00e9mat. V\u00a0p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b, \u017ee zjist\u00edm, \u017ee je to nad m\u00e9 mo\u017enosti a kompetence, pak doporu\u010duji dal\u0161\u00ed odborn\u00edky, jako je psychiatr, pr\u00e1vn\u00edk, soci\u00e1ln\u00ed pracovnice apod.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Za posledn\u00ed dobu ve \u0161koln\u00ed a soukrom\u00e9 praxi i j\u00e1 vn\u00edm\u00e1m, \u017ee mi p\u0159ibylo klient\u016f s\u00a0psychick\u00fdmi probl\u00e9my, jako jsou \u00fazkosti, depresivn\u00ed stavy, probl\u00e9my p\u0159\u00edjmu potravy, sebepo\u0161kozov\u00e1n\u00ed, z\u00e1vislost na informa\u010dn\u00edch technologi\u00edch a jin\u00e9 z\u00e1vislosti. Pat\u0159\u00ed sem tak\u00e9 nejistota v\u00a0oblasti pohlavn\u00ed identity, ot\u00e1zky transgenderu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ur\u010dit\u011b je to nevhodn\u00e9 pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed mobil\u016f, je\u017e negativn\u011b ovliv\u0148uje vztahy ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b, ale i ty p\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00e9 a kamar\u00e1dsk\u00e9. Dal\u0161\u00edmi jsou z\u00e1\u0161kol\u00e1ctv\u00ed, sebepo\u0161kozov\u00e1n\u00ed, \u00fazkosti, depresivn\u00ed stavy, \u0161koln\u00ed ne\u00fasp\u011bch, nerespektov\u00e1n\u00ed autorit, n\u00e1vykov\u00e9 l\u00e1tky, ot\u00e1zky transgenderu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ka\u017ed\u00fd jedinec m\u00e1 ur\u010ditou m\u00edru odolnosti v\u016f\u010di n\u011b\u010demu a v\u016f\u010di n\u011b\u010demu zase ne, schopnosti a dovednosti k\u00a0\u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9m\u016f, kriz\u00ed, m\u00e1me sebez\u00e1chovn\u00fd pud apod. Kdy\u017e jedinec hled\u00e1 cesty s\u00e1m v\u00a0sob\u011b \u010di ve sv\u00e9m okol\u00ed, kdy\u017e zkou\u0161\u00ed \u0159e\u0161it situace metodou pokus-omyl nebo vyu\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 ji\u017e z\u00edskan\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed, a funguje mu to, pak to zvl\u00e1d\u00e1, posouv\u00e1 ho to d\u00e1l, roste s\u00a0ka\u017edou zku\u0161enost\u00ed a s\u00a0tou nep\u0159\u00edjemnou o to v\u00edc. U\u010d\u00ed se a m\u016f\u017ee tak b\u00fdt v\u00edce v psychick\u00e9 pohod\u011b, chov\u00e1 se tak a zvl\u00e1d\u00e1 p\u0159im\u011b\u0159en\u011b ka\u017edodenn\u00ed situace.
Ve chv\u00edli, kdy p\u0159irozen\u00e9 strategie na zvl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed obt\u00ed\u017e\u00ed nefunguj\u00ed a nap\u0159. m\u00edra intenzity strachu \u010di \u00fazkosti je velk\u00e1 tak moc, \u017ee to jedinci komplikuje \u017eivot, nabour\u00e1v\u00e1 \u017eivotn\u00ed styl, n\u00e1vyky, p\u0159ib\u00fdv\u00e1 frustrac\u00ed, pak je dobr\u00e9 co nejd\u0159\u00edve vyhledat odbornou pomoc
a nenechat to zaj\u00edt moc daleko, nenormalizovat to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ano, n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed se styd\u00ed v\u00a0tom, \u017ee necht\u011bj\u00ed, aby okol\u00ed ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b v\u011bd\u011blo, \u017ee pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed se mnou mluvit. Sami rodi\u010de m\u011b tak\u00e9 n\u011bkdy \u017e\u00e1daj\u00ed, abych si pro jejich d\u00edt\u011b nechodila do t\u0159\u00eddy a volila jinou cestu. Pln\u011b to respektuji a hled\u00e1m cesty v\u00a0souladu se \u017e\u00e1dost\u00ed \u017e\u00e1ka \u010di rodi\u010de. \u00a0
Na druhou stranu m\u00e1m dojem, \u017ee se styd\u00ed m\u00e9n\u011b ne\u017e p\u0159edchoz\u00ed generace, nebo\u0165 aktu\u00e1ln\u011b se v\u00a0m\u00e9di\u00edch \u010dasto mluv\u00ed, p\u00ed\u0161e, jak je pot\u0159ebn\u00e1 psychologick\u00e1 \u010di psychiatrick\u00e1 p\u00e9\u010de pro d\u011bti a dosp\u00edvaj\u00edc\u00ed, tak\u017ee se to da\u0159\u00ed postupn\u011b destigmatizovat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b. Mohou se na m\u011b obracet s\u00a0obt\u00ed\u017eemi v\u00fdchovn\u00e9ho a v\u00fdukov\u00e9ho charakteru.
Mezi v\u00fdchovn\u00e9 pat\u0159\u00ed nap\u0159\u00edklad probl\u00e9mov\u00fd vztah mezi rodi\u010dem a d\u00edt\u011btem, jejich komunikace, kdy\u017e rodi\u010d zjist\u00ed, \u017ee se jeho d\u00edt\u011b po\u0161kozuje, u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 n\u00e1vykov\u00e9 l\u00e1tky, m\u00e1 z\u00e1vislost na informa\u010dn\u00edch technologi\u00edch a v\u00a0d\u016fsledku toho se objevuje vzr\u016fstaj\u00edc\u00ed agresivn\u00ed chov\u00e1n\u00ed, probl\u00e9my s\u00a0pohlavn\u00ed identitou \u010di pohlavn\u00ed preferenc\u00ed, kyber\u0161ikana atd.
P\u0159\u00edklady v\u00fdukov\u00fdch (\u0161koln\u00edch) situac\u00ed mohou b\u00fdt \u0161koln\u00ed ne\u00fasp\u011b\u0161nost, zm\u011bna oboru \u010di \u0161koly, p\u0159\u00edprava na v\u00fduku a u\u010debn\u00ed styly, zji\u0161\u0165ov\u00e1n\u00ed vzd\u011bl\u00e1vac\u00edch schopnost\u00ed, vrstevnick\u00e9 vztahy, kyber\u0161ikana, vztah u\u010ditel-\u017e\u00e1k, z\u00e1\u0161kol\u00e1ctv\u00ed a kryt\u00e9 z\u00e1\u0161kol\u00e1ctv\u00ed rodi\u010dem, n\u00e1vykov\u00e9 l\u00e1tky ve \u0161kole apod.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Konzultace prob\u00edhaj\u00ed podle pot\u0159eby, n\u011bkter\u00e9 jsou napl\u00e1novan\u00e9, n\u011bkter\u00e1 setk\u00e1n\u00ed prob\u00edhaj\u00ed v\u00a0p\u0159\u00edtomn\u00e9m okam\u017eiku. V\u011bt\u0161inou se sejdeme u m\u011b v\u00a0kancel\u00e1\u0159i, v\u00a0klidu to probereme, popov\u00edd\u00e1me si, spole\u010dn\u011b se pokus\u00edme naj\u00edt \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed anebo konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed kroky k\u00a0n\u011bmu. Ob\u010das chod\u00edm i do vyu\u010dovac\u00edch hodin na pozorov\u00e1n\u00ed.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kdy\u017e m\u011b oslov\u00ed jak\u00e9koliv d\u00edt\u011b mlad\u0161\u00ed 18 let, je moj\u00ed povinnost\u00ed informovat z\u00e1konn\u00e9 z\u00e1stupce, pokud se nejedn\u00e1 o krizovou intervenci, kter\u00e1 je v\u011bt\u0161inou, kv\u016fli aktu\u00e1lnosti, bez p\u0159edchoz\u00edho souhlasu rodi\u010d\u016f. Jinak si nemohu jen tak z\u00a0vlastn\u00ed v\u016fle vz\u00edt d\u00edt\u011b na popov\u00edd\u00e1n\u00ed. Jako ka\u017ed\u00fd dosp\u011bl\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk, i j\u00e1 m\u00e1m ale oznamovac\u00ed povinnost ve chv\u00edli, kdy\u017e zjist\u00edm, \u017ee sd\u011blen\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte jsou takov\u00e9 povahy, kter\u00e1 vedou k\u00a0tomu, \u017ee je ur\u010dit\u00e1 pravd\u011bpodobnost, \u017ee je d\u00edt\u011b ohro\u017eeno na zdrav\u00ed fyzick\u00e9m \u010di psychick\u00e9m, nebo dokonce na \u017eivot\u011b. Pak mus\u00edm informovat v\u00a0prv\u00e9 \u0159ad\u011b rodi\u010de.
Kdy\u017e ale zjist\u00edm, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem ohro\u017euj\u00ed samotn\u00ed rodi\u010de, pak je mou povinnost\u00ed ozn\u00e1mit to na Policii \u010cR nebo OSPOD. T\u00fdk\u00e1 se to situac\u00ed, kdy rodi\u010de zanedb\u00e1vaj\u00ed \u010di t\u00fdraj\u00ed fyzicky, psychicky a sexu\u00e1ln\u011b sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b nebo d\u00edt\u011b jim sv\u011b\u0159en\u00e9 do p\u00e9\u010de.
N\u011bkter\u00e9 informace mohou z\u016fstat a z\u016fst\u00e1vaj\u00ed jen mezi mnou a d\u00edt\u011btem, pokud jsou takov\u00e9 povahy, \u017ee jejich nesd\u011blen\u00ed nepo\u0161kod\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b, ale ani m\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u0159ekvapuje m\u011b<\/em>, jak se prom\u011bnila v\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed a rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed. Abych byla konkr\u00e9tn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed: v\u011bt\u0161inou se ve sv\u00e9 profesi dostanu a\u017e k\u00a0negativn\u00edm d\u016fsledk\u016fm v\u00fdchovn\u00fdch postup\u016f rodi\u010d\u016f. V\u011bt\u0161inou tak\u00e9 spolu s\u00a0rodi\u010di dojdeme do bodu, kdy postupn\u011b sami p\u0159ich\u00e1zej\u00ed na odpov\u011bdi sv\u00fdch ot\u00e1zek \u2013 \u017ee maj\u00ed v\u00fdchovu bezhrani\u010dn\u00ed, jsou ned\u016fsledn\u00ed nebo p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 autoritativn\u00ed. P\u0159\u00edli\u0161n\u00e9 ope\u010dov\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed d\u011bt\u00ed nevede k\u00a0vytou\u017een\u00e9 samostatnosti d\u011bt\u00ed, naopak vede k\u00a0v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1vislosti na komfortu a obav\u00e1ch z\u00a0jeho ztr\u00e1ty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
i za cenu pozv\u00e1n\u00ed dal\u0161\u00edho odborn\u00edka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
i pro ost\u0159\u00edlen\u00e9ho psychologa. Co t\u011b naopak u\u017e nep\u0159ekvap\u00ed?<\/strong>
Nep\u0159ekvap\u00ed m\u011b<\/em> u\u017e tolik sebepo\u0161kozov\u00e1n\u00ed u d\u011bt\u00ed a mladistv\u00fdch v\u00a0podob\u011b \u0159ez\u00e1n\u00ed se n\u00e1stroji jako zp\u016fsob uvoln\u011bn\u00ed v\u00a0tenzi a z\u00e1rove\u0148 ur\u010dit\u00e9 vol\u00e1n\u00ed o pomoc, podporu, kdy\u017e dovol\u00ed, aby to n\u011bkdo vid\u011bl, nebo s\u00a0t\u00edm za mnou p\u0159ijdou. \u010castokr\u00e1t je to tak\u00e9 o tom, \u017ee si nep\u0159ej\u00ed, aby to rodi\u010de v\u011bd\u011bli. Jsem si dnes jist\u00e1, \u017ee hlavn\u011b necht\u011bj\u00ed ubl\u00ed\u017eit rodi\u010d\u016fm, p\u0159id\u011blat jim starosti, zklamat je, rozzlobit je. Jen d\u011bti jsou experti na sv\u00e9 rodi\u010de a v\u011bd\u00ed, pro\u010d o to \u017e\u00e1daj\u00ed. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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